roots

2018 is turning out to be a truly transformative year for me. i’ve been spending my energy building a deeper understanding of who i am and the world around me. that said, as the months have passed and as i’ve made progress with getting in touch with my authentic self, i’ve also felt what a growing void. for the longest time, i couldn’t figure out the source of this void and it almost felt inexplicable. but slowly, with time, i have been able to uncover the source of what is causing this void - a deep sense of disconnect with my roots and my culture.

ACCEPTANCE

in the past decade of my adult life, i have embraced rapid globalization, absorbing countless western philosophies and culture from the past and present. in retrospect, it feels as if it all happened almost subconsciously, as if i was sucked into a vacuum. but the reality is, in moments where i had to make a choice, between absorbing and nurturing my own culture vs looking elsewhere, i was consistently choosing the latter. before i knew it, i was choosing western culture over my own in every imaginable way. i was almost exclusively listening to western music. i was choosing to watch western TV and movies way more often than i watched Indian television or movies. i was wearing clothes that although were “made in India” didn’t look or feel “Indian.” in other words, my pursuit of a deeper understanding of the western and global culture resulted in the undesired trade-off of a “gradual unlearning” or “neglect” of my own.

THE WAY FORWARD

the choices i’ve made in the past decade may define who i am today and how in-tune i am with the rich traditions of my land but they definitely do not define or limit who i can be tomorrow. as i approach my 30th year on this earth, i have a choice to be lessened by this realization or empowered by it. needless to say, i am choosing the latter. i choose to be grateful for the exposure globalization has brought me and hope to absorb my own culture in a more rounded and informed manner because of it. i cannot undo choices i’ve made in the past but i can make more informed and balanced choices going forward.

with this realization, i will be making a conscious shift in the coming months. a shift through which i intend to gradually strengthen and deepen my understanding of the the ancient culture and history of my land and its people. i am hoping for this shift to be one that runs across all aspects of life, but i am particularly excited to learn more about Yoga and Ayurveda so that i can have a more holistic understanding and approach to wellbeing. i am also going to prioritize reading books about India's history and the people who have shaped it. most importantly, i am particularly driven to learn more about our diverse and rich history with fabrics and textile and work closely with people who are helping preserve, nurture, and sustain these ancient traditions.

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full disclosure - this post is in partnership with Akira Ming. all opinions are my own. to learn more about the values with which i approach partnerships, please visit here.

Akira Ming is a sustainable + ethical fashion brand based out of New Delhi, India that creates hand-made designs with exquisite attention to detail. they work with 100% natural and handwoven fabrics such as ahimsa silk and mammal khaki, helping sustain these ancient weaving methods that are such an integral part of the Indian culture

they recently launched their first mens collection and sent me the Caden shirt to try out. the shirt is made out of malkha - a hand spun and hand woven textile. i still remember holding this shirt in my hand for the first time and being blown away by its softness. i was also extremely impressed by the quality of this piece and by the attention to detail and craftsmanship of the shirt. i especially loved the contrast trim that is added to the cuffs and collars, as you can see in the images above, it adds a lot of character to the piece.

as i've said several times in conversations with many of you "the clothes we wear have a story." when i wear this shirt, i feel deeply in touch with the love, attention, and care with which this shirt has been made. wearing it enables me to tune-in to the rich history of Indian handwoven fabrics as well as the wonderful story behind the brand itself. 

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identity

identity crisis and identity asset

i began 2018 with a sudden realisation of the identity crisis that had been brewing latently for most of my early and mid twenty's. i realised, that i was disillusioned about my day-job. that i was unsure about which of my passions i should pursue. i owned so many things but kept yearning for more, and most importantly, i realised that my strongest relationships were a constant source of negativity. 

luckily, as the months have passed, i have been able to use minimalism to navigate through this identity crisis. minimizing my circle enabled me to have a deeper understanding of what i seek from relationships and work on manifesting these attributes in them. minimizing my finances and what i owned made me realize how privileged i am. it enabled me to squeeze out every ounce of value and beauty from what i already owned rather than feeding this notion that i needed anything more. these efforts created space, space that i was able to channelize towards the work i do. i narrowed my focus to tasks i enjoyed doing at my day-job and slowly distanced myself from what i didn't. i set clear boundaries at my day job so that i would have more time to dedicate to passions i had lost touch with, like blogging and making music. if i could summarize these changes in a few words, i'd say "i had been chipping away, transforming my identity crisis into identity asset."

deeper exploration of identity

after months of persistent chipping away transforming my identity crisis into identity asset, i found myself in a conversation with someone that led to an ephipahy. at some point during the conversation, i was thrown the proverbial "there is no you" idiom. this was very conflicting for me to hear, after having spent most of the year working excruciatingly hard build an understanding and consequently nurturing my individual identity. after our call ended, as i sat in my living room staring at one of my houseplants, ruminating and questioning the conversation i had just had, i had a sudden epiphany. i frantically reached out for a piece of paper and wrote the following down -

"the leaves on this plant behind me aren't separate from the plant itself. a leaf might see another and think it’s separate or that it’s higher or lower. in rudimentary states of consciousness, the leaf identifies with itself. it perceives its position as on top or bottom and this stems from its belief of being separate from the rest. this isn’t unreal. this isn’t unauthentic. it is reality perceived in separateness. it is finite identity.

in infinite consciousness, the leaf knows that it isn’t just the leaf but the whole damn plant. and the position it perceives is no longer perceived out of separation but rather from wholeness. it identifies not with itself but as the sum of all that is. and in an instant, nothing turns to everything. finite identity turns into infinite identity in the blink of an eye."

individual identity begets collective identity

individual identity begets collective identity. any identification with the collective cannot come without a prior identification with the individual. have spent the past few weeks drowning in gratitude and amazement at the progress i've been able to make at with my individual identity.

Summer 2018 10x10 Challenge

I ended up participating in the 10x10 challenge despite the fact that it had almost ended by the time I started. I participated despite the fact that the challenge didn't seem to have men taking part in it and was dominated by women. I participated despite having no clue how I would shoot the images. In other words, this challenge was as much about facing fears and getting out of my comfort zone as it was about working with a capsule wardrobe.  

Some of you might have read my post on Instagram in which I talk about self discovery and seclusion. For those of you that didn't, starting 1st of August, I decided to limit my social interactions to be only work related. The idea was to detach from society and people the most I could afford to, so that I could get answers to some questions that would enable me to be my most authentic self. I wanted to cut out the noise around me so that when I asked myself questions, the answers would not be muddled by the opinion of others and societal conditioning but rather be pure to to essence of who I am. 

Interestingly, the challenge started around the same time. And what I have also realized in these two weeks of solitude and participating in this challenge is that besides society and people around us, a major factor that influences how we think is fear. Many times we chose to do something or not do it because of fear. We do not let go of toxic relationships because we fear what life could be without them. We continue working a job that makes us miserable because we are too fearful of not having fiscal stability. To that extent, the 10x10 challenge has been a great way for me to practice overcoming fear. It has shown me the value of facing our fears. It has made me realise that there's magic waiting to happen, only if we are willing to put ourselves out there and I find myself driven to apply it in other areas of life. 

P.S - I thoroughly enjoyed doing the challenge. As you will see, I have repeated most pieces (I wore the beige shorts 4 times.) And, nothing about this feels wrong. To the contrary, I felt like I was finally doing justice to some of my favourites. I am totally sold on this concept and I think I would like to apply this approach to all the clothing I own (that will mean I will have to  dramatically minimize my wardrobe and I'm aiming for between 30-40 items.) More on that soon. 

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Revelations at The Jim Thompson House

For as long as I remember, my birthday has caused me severe anxiety. At the core of this anxiety is a disdain for sudden attention from several people who I barely know (or who barely know me) and the lack of attention from people I’ve loved and lost with whom I treasured spending my birthday. With this in mind, I was stoked to be in a new country (Thailand) all by myself and although during the initial two days I had made several new friends at my hostel and spent a lot of time exploring the city with them, I had decided that on my last day (which happened to be my 29th birthday) I was going to explore what was left on my list on my own.

After visiting the Wat Pho temple and the Grand Palace on the morning of my birthday, I was left with just enough time to visit one more place before I left for the airport and it obviously had to be The Jim Thompson House. I say obviously, because back home, well before I arrived in Thailand, while reading about things to do in Bangkok, I was most intrigued by The Jim Thompson House. Luckily, I made it there by 1pm and was assigned a spot in the 1:10pm guided tour (I've read of others having to wait longer.) While I waited for the guided tour to begin, I was strolling around the property and had already started feeling a wave of emotion stirring up inside me caused by the beauty of this place and an inexplicable sense of familiarity.

Moments into the guided tour, the sense of familiarity started to get overwhelming and I was almost drowning in it. As our guide began to narrate his story, it felt like I knew it already (although it was the first time I was hearing it.) I felt this strong sense of having been in this property before. All of this only intensified as we left the courtyard of the house and entered the actual property (where photography is prohibited.) As our guide showed the first of many artifacts collected by Jim Thompson, my sense of familiarity crossed its tipping point. I noticed a palpable sign of this - tears running silently across my face. In that moment, I didn’t try and stop it, I didn’t think about or analyze it. I didn’t worry about what the guide or the other members of the tour might be thinking. I simply accepted it. I accepted it so seamlessly, because in that moment, I felt an absolute sense of harmony with myself and everything around me. I felt no need to try and understand what I was feeling but an urgent sense of wanting to completely immerse myself into it. To embrace it, to let it take over me, and that is exactly what happened.

After I returned home, I’ve had time to reflect on what happened and look at it from a cognitive perspective. This has led to clarity that what I experienced was no coincidence and had been a long time in the making. You see, like most people in their late 20s, the past few months (or years) of my life have been about self-discovery and growth. I have made tremendous progress when it comes to uncovering the sort of life I want to live. Progress toward knowing what makes me happy and what gives me a sense of purpose. I can only describe this phase as peeling away layers and layers of false identity so as to eventually reach my most authentic self. Each time I peeled a layer, I discovered something new about myself. Whether it was the fact that I want to spend my life in deep communion with nature. Or that I want to live it slowly - so as to notice the beauty in every tiny moment. A life that isn't spent chasing an infinite list of things but collecting and nurturing only what I truly need, value, and love.

In retrospect, I know that all that peeling away was leading to a specific moment. Years of peeling away seamlessly coincided with me visiting The Jim Thompson House in a cosmically special way. Had I visited  a year ago, I wouldn't have felt what I did. Heck, had I visited a couple of months ago, I wouldn't have felt it. It necessitated every last layer to have been peeled. Such that, the house and his story would serve as nothing but a mirror. A visual manifestation of the life I knew I had been peeling away at but one I hadn't ever seen put together so vividly. I couldn't (and wisely chose not to) understand what I was feeling then. But now, it is clear as day. As I stood there, peeled away to my core, I was ready. Ready to receive revelations of the life I had been dreaming of - put together for me to see.

3 lessons on eco travel I learnt on my recent weekend trip to Bangkok

In the recent months, as I’ve made strides toward living a sustainable lifestyle, I have been feeling extremely conflicted about air travel. Don't get me wrong, I love traveling but I think the impact of air travel doesn't come up in conversations related to sustainability and the environment half as much as it should. I say this based on a two facts - 1) the aviation industry is a rare one in that it is almost entirely dependent on fossil fuel and 2) a single domestic trip can create a warming effect equivalent to 2 or 3 tons of carbon dioxide per person (which exceeds the annual per capita budget in order to ensure we do not cross a global temperature of 2C.)

We often overlook this fact because we only look at the total contribution of the aviation industry (which stood at 2% as per estimates shared by the ICAO.) What we fail to take into consideration is that as more and more people across developing nations begin to participate, this estimate is expected to snowball to 25% by 2050.

On my recent weekend trip to Bangkok, I realised that it is nearly impossible to avoid air travel when traveling internationally or on a tight timeline. That said, this damage can be offset by being more conscious of our footprint through other aspects of our travels. Here are three simple ways you can reduce your carbon footprint while traveling.

1) Stay at an eco hostel

Staying at any hostel will help reduce your carbon footprint while travelling because you are sharing resources that otherwise would be dedicated to a single person (or two.) I was a bit skeptical about doing this because back home I enjoy living alone and can't imagine sharing my personal space with anyone. That said, the more I thought about it, the more the idea of me staying all by myself in a hotel room seemed wasteful. 

I decided to go a step further and look for an eco hostel in Bangkok and I was lucky enough to stumble upon "The Yard Hostel" which is located in the hipster and well-connected Ari neighbourhood. Yard, literally means relative in Thai, and after you spend a few minutes with the super friendly and kind staff and guests, you will definitely feel the sense of community at this place.

Sustainability and greenery are definitely at the core of this hostel, which is constructed from shipping containers and reused materials and is lush green with plants, while offering silence that one might imagine impossible to find in Bangkok. There is an emphasis on conserving resources by sharing as much as you can and by avoiding waste. They even offer cycles for free so that you can explore the neighbourhood sans emissions. I can't believe I am saying this, but after staying at The Yard, I don't think I will ever stay in a hotel while travelling again. 

2) Use transit and walk

During my stay I decided that I would not use a private cab to commute and committed myself to take advantage of Bangkok's well connected public transit system. This was a big move for me because I was traveling solo and didn’t speak the language. That said, I am glad I faced my fears because not only is Bangkok's transit system very well connected, it is also fairly easy to use. Based on instructions from the lovely staff at The Yard Hostel, I took the Airport Rail Link from Suvarnabhumi Airport and got off at the last stop on the line - Phaya thai. From here, I got on the Sukumvhit line to get off on the 3rd last stop (Ari) which is the same neighborhood as my hostel and after a few minutes walking, I arrived at my hostel. I was able to use the same line combined with quite a bit of walking to visit all of the places I did (I ended up walking about 60kms in 3 days.)

3) Say no to single-use plastic

Lessons can often be learnt from mistakes and that is exactly what happened to me when it came to using single-use plastic on this trip - I totally messed up! Back home, there is a ban that has been introduced on single-use plastic in my state and most places will offer non-plastic alternatives by default or even exclusively. But in Thailand, the scenario was quite contrasting, with most shops and eateries still dominantly using plastic.I was able to overcome this in most cases but I'd be lying if I said I was successful all the time. So if you are planning a trip soon, I highly recommend carrying a basic kit that consists of cloth bags, reusable straws/forks/knives/spoons and maybe even a container or two. This should equip you you to avoid single-use plastic to a a fairly large extent.

Are you planning an international trip anytime soon? If so, which of these tips are you most excited to give a shot? Leave a comment.

required reading: may 18

Required Reading is a section on the blog through which I want to share the best articles I’ve discovered on the Internet. Articles that tell inspiring stories of great people, of unknown people, of seemingly ordinary occurrences that can have extra-ordinary repercussion in your life. Articles that will help you improve your life, to live it to the fullest, articles that bestow wisdom and change how you see the world. Basically, stuff that you should be required to read. 

Along with articles, I also include a book suggestion in each iteration. This month’s pick is the revolutionary autobiography of Paramahansa Yogananda "Autobiography of a Yogi" - a spell-bounding account of how the author discovers spirituality throughout his childhood and adolescence, followed by a detailed account of the mystic experiences he witnessed during his journey as a seeker, a disciple, and eventually a master.

P.S. - Before he died, Steve Jobs specially instructed that all attendees of his memorial service be given a copy of “Autobiography of a Yogi” - a book that he supposedly read several times during his life.  

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Support your friends, build a community 

Self-Sabotage and how it's holding you back

Letting Go of Attachment to Outcome

Climate change: Are we doomed?

Creating the Time to Do What You Love Every Day

A few simple ways that you can still reduce your waste footprint

American Apparel - ethically made or NOT?

Steve Jobs’ Secret for Eliciting Questions

10 "notes to self" to help you stop taking things personally

Like Grass Fighting the Wind

As the smoke settles, I breath slowly, taking in the fresh breath of air that now engulfs me within it. It is hard to imagine that only a couple of days back I was drowning in an overwhelming pool of anxiety caused by too much noise around me and not being able to narrow down on where it was coming from and how to stop it. 

What can one do in such a situation? How does one deal with something they can't control that is taking over them? How does one deal with something that is not just external to them but is also very difficult to place a finger on? Sure, you could try and make sense of it, you could introspect, you could try and analyze the situation so that you are able to identify the source of it all. But sometimes it doesn't work. 

There is only one thing we can do in such a situation - we can practice resilience and humility. Like grass fighting the wind, we must humbly acknowledge and accept the fact that what we are facing is unknown, unseen, and bigger than us. At the same time, we must be rooted enough to resiliently hold our ground no matter how strong the wind gets, till the very end.

In life, we will encounter situations greater than us, situations we cannot control, situations we can barely make sense of. We cannot change such situations but we can change how we react (or not) to them and how they impact us. In such cases, reacting is futile because it has literally no impact on the situation. It doesn't make it better but it most certainly can add to the anxiety. Instead, we can focus our energy on harnessing and consequently sustaining our inner-peace and not letting the situation impact our groundedness - to be like grass fighting the wind.

ootd: it may rain

There is something magical about the first drop of rain after months and months of excruciating Indian summer. For as long as I can remember, I have been enamored with it and at the first hint of its arrival, I find my insides begging me to run, to run as fast as I can, till I reach a vantage point, where I can soak it all in.

Within minutes of sighting the first set of lightnings, I've quickly reached a meadow, under a sky that promises to swallow the earth, the irrefutable charm of petrichor engulfing my senses, a gush of wind blowing through my hair, drops of rain caressing my skin, slowly reaching my finger-tips.

Of all the seasons, I think monsoon is truly one for the senses and it can get you in touch with what it means to be truly alive. 

Required Reading: April 18

Required Reading is a section on the blog through which I want to share the best articles I’ve discovered on the Internet. Articles that tell inspiring stories of great people, of unknown people, of seemingly ordinary occurrences that can have extra-ordinary repercussion in your life. Articles that will help you improve your life, to live it to the fullest, articles that bestow wisdom and change how you see the world. Basically, stuff that you should be required to read. 

Along with articles, I have decided to also include a book suggestion in each iteration. This month’s pick is a thriller by Kanae Minato called "Confessions." The book, which was the author's debut, is a fascinating read and is almost impossible to put down. It tells the story of a teacher and her daughter's murder, from her, and the perspective of various people involved. A captivating read on childhood and growing up and on how the way you are treated or not treated can shape your motives, leading you to do something drastic. A truly fascinating read on human psychology told from a thrilling narrative of a homicide and suicide.

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Kate Bowler shares how stage IV cancer taught her to live

30 ways to help make the planet greener

We can't innovate our way out of the impending water scarcity epidemic

5 innovations that can make the fashion industry more sustainable 

How to be comfortable with discomfort 

The link between an optimistic outlook and health

There is 79,000 tons of plastic in the pacific trash patch

Why being a part-time vegan makes sense

This Shinrin Yoku sounds like something I'd be into

The intimacy of socialising in silence

This beautiful article on spending more time with loved ones

What is "Fashion Revolution" and how can you be a part of it?

Today is an important day for the sustainable + ethical fashion movement, because today marks the anniversary of the 2013 Rana Plaza building collapse. The collapse resulted in several thousand employees getting injured and losing their lives and out of this tragedy the fashion revolution movement was born. The movement aims at asking brands a simple question - "#whomademyclothes?" with the purpose of demanding and bringing about greater transparency in the fashion industry supply chain so as to empower the people who have been exploited in the process and reduce the impact of the fashion industry on our environment (remember the textile and clothing industry is the 2nd highest carbon emitter, responsible for 10% global emission.)  

Each one of us has a role to play in transitioning away from the fast fashion approach of not knowing or caring about how our clothes were made, by whom they were made and whether these people had proper working conditions or not. We must also relook how we consume our clothes, how quick we are to discard them, and what impact they end up having on our environment when we discard them.  

All of this can seem daunting and confusing at first and in order to help you get kick-started I thought I'd share three easy ways in which you can become a part of the fashion revolution.  

Read and talk about it  

The quickest and easiest way that you can join the movement is by reading through the official website and eventually spreading the word. Go through some of the information available, understand the issue, understand the implications, understand the perpetrators and the victims, and most importantly, understand what needs to be done.  

Once you feel you've read enough on it to have a strong opinion, formulate your thoughts and share them. This could be done by posting an Instagram selfie asking your favorite brand a simple question - "who made my clothes" or by engaging people around you in a conversation on this topic. No step is too small, as long it gets the conversation started.  

"THE DAMAGE OF PRODUCING CLOTHES IN WAYS THAT AREN'T SUSTAINABLE OR ETHICAL CAN NEVER BE REDUCED BY DISCARDING THEM. 

IT CAN ONLY BE OFFSET BY ENSURING THAT WE AT-LEAST CONSUME THEM IN AN ETHICAL AND SUSTAINABLE MANNER."

Say "no" to new clothes  

Another easy way to contribute to the cause is by pledging not to participate in fast fashion. Some people look at this as a transition that translates into buying only sustainable and ethically manufactured clothes. I on the other hand suggest taking a pause from buying any new piece of clothing altogether for a short period.

This pause will give you time to introspect and look at all the clothes you already own and identify the clothes you truly enjoy wearing vs those you don't. This is an important step because once you've figured out what you don't enjoy wearing anymore, you can begin the process of minimizing your wardrobe (more on that later.) The pause and the consequent awareness of everything in your wardrobe will enable you to differentiate between what you need vs what you want. You can also use this time to research accessible brands that produce in a sustainable and ethical manner. All of this will ensure that when you do resume buying new clothes again, it will be a more deliberate and purposeful process, causing the least amount of damage to the environment and the people who made your clothes. 

Closing the fashion loop

After you've minimized your wardrobe and have identified the pieces of clothing that you no longer wear, you need to ensure that you close the fashion loop by letting go of the clothes you no longer need in a responsible manner. I tend to prefer to hand my clothes down to someone I know, because like that I know the clothes would actually end up being used. But if you aren't sure who to hand your old clothes down to, then you can do a little bit of research to find local organizations that accept old/used clothes for reuse or recycle.

So, how will you be participating in the fashion revolution week? 

ootd: graphic

The process of making a shift towards ethical and sustainable fashion for me didn't necessarily translate to emptying out my closet and starting fresh. It meant that I'd look at my current closet and minimize it so as to offset the damage caused by not purchasing sustainable and ethically produced clothes by consuming them in a sustainable manner. I haven't purchased any apparel since the start of this year and I am constantly evaluating the options I already have in my wardrobe (the pieces that I am 100% sure I no longer need, I either donate or trade them to be recycled.)

In this process, it pays to be mindful of what your are discarding. I set three rules for myself to help me let go of clothes in a more structured way and not just discard everything in my closet. I only let go of a piece of apparel if it 1) does not fit me anymore 2) if it is so worn out that it can't be worn and 3) if I have tried wearing it again more than once and have found that I do not feel comfortable in it anymore.

I own a few graphic tees and can't remember having worn them more than a few times in the past couple of years. So I decided to give them the test, and I was surprised to find that although I hadn't for a while, I now love wearing graphic tees because they offer a silhouette that can provide a sense of pop to your outfit by way of contrast (I love how to the dark blue contrasts with the light blue of the tee while blending with the dark blue of the chino I am wearing.)

What are your thoughts on graphic tees? Do you love them or hate them? And what type of apparel do you no longer wear but would consider giving one last shot?

Shot by Shashank Issar

The single most effective action to practice being present in the moment

We tend to look at life as an anticipation of better things or a look back at the past and at what went wrong. This at some level creates discontent in our heart and mind about the present moment, making it seem like it isn't enough. We feed the idea that life would be better only if we made more money, or if we had more meaningful relationships, or if we had more time. Alternatively, we look back and think - because this happened to me, I will never be good enough. But the reality could not be further and all it takes to bring about a change in how we look at things is a moment to pause. 

A pause can come in many shapes and forms, but my personal favorite way to pause and practice being present in the moment, is to take a minute out from whatever I am doing and stop to notice the sky above me. Whenever I do this, I find myself instantly calmed by the beauty & magnitude of the world around me and humbled by my own smallness. My problems seem insignificant (thereby unshackling me from negativity from either my past or anticipated troubles) and the world seems infinitely beautiful with endless possibilities.

Looking up at the sky, has become for me, the single most effective action to practice being present in the moment. At the end of this activity, which hardly takes a minute, I find myself immensely inspired, calmer, less anxious, and most importantly, I find myself unburdened from the past or the future, for a brief minute or so, everything around me, is enough. 

What are your thoughts? How do you practice being present in the moment? 

Required Reading: March 18

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Required Reading is a section on the blog through which I want to share the best articles I’ve discovered on the Internet. Articles that tell inspiring stories of great people, of unknown people, of seemingly ordinary occurrences that can have extra-ordinary repercussion in your life. Articles that will help you improve your life, to live it to the fullest, articles that bestow wisdom and change how you see the world. Basically, stuff that you should be required to read. 

Along with articles, I have decided to also include a book suggestion in each iteration. This month I have chosen "Note to self" by Connor Franta, a beautiful memoir in which the author talks about depression & therapy, social anxiety, self-love, relationships, loss, acceptance and finding who you are. What makes the book special is how intimately the author manages to share his experiences in the rather short essays that often include poetry and original photography. 

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Sea2See turns plastic into eyewear 

Break up with your phone 

The magic behind a lymphatic massage

10 ways to naturally heal fatigue

The fashion industry and cultural appropriation 

This fascinating look at the romantic life of surrealist Dalí

This article on boys and their brokenness 

The impact of our busy lives on our body's

Kehinde Wiley’s Portrait of Barack Obama blew my mind

Love these 5 hacks for slow yet productive living 

Kindness is sexy, start today with these 20 acts of kindness

Organise your wardrobe

4 positive changes to make in your life

31 perfect things that won't cost you a dime

The secret behind making a lot of money - quit your job

A fascinating read on eye-contact with strangers on the road

ootd: Call me by your name

I saw the movie “Call me by your name” before summer began, but it stirred up in me an anticipatory infatuation for a season I had recently started to dread. There is a charm to the season that I had almost forgotten but after watching the movie (which is predominantly shot in summer), I found myself rekindled with the poetry behind it. I was transported to times when I was in love, to a time when the harshness of the Indian summer didn’t even cross my mind, when the sun made everything more beautiful and magical, especially when it played hide and seek with my lovers face.

This summer, I look back on a love that many summers ago exalted us, a love that engrossed us, so effortlessly, almost all at once, a love that felt timeless, impenetrable, a love that no longer manifests in front of my eyes, but reaches out to me gently through the rays of light reminiscent of a time when it was still mine to hold. 

I’d be lying if I said that the outfit I am wearing wasn’t inspired by the movie. I owned each of these pieces before watching the movie, but had never paired them together. At some level, the oversized linen shirt, the chino shorts, and sneakers all take cues from Oliver’s garb in the movie.

Note: This is the first time I have done a story shot entirely on the iPhone instead of a DSLR. I was a bit apprehensive at first about whether the iPhone would be able to capture light and colors in the way I wanted, but I feel we've reached a point with technology where the iPhone almost performs better than an older entry/mid level DSLR. The details are almost as crisp, the light and colors turn out better almost, because these get displayed and can be altered live, which is a more intuitive way of making adjustments for most. A key area where my DSLR still performs better, is at capturing depth of field (a style that I feel has ironically been overdone, specially since its pseudo arrival to the world of phones.) 

Thank you Andy, for capturing the vision behind this post so beautifully.

Essentials: Iku Denim Pouch by Nicobar

As a minimalist and someone who really cares about sustainability, the act of buying anything has become a much more deliberate and slower process for me. It involves questioning the need for what I am about to buy and the value it adds to my life. Once I’ve established the value this product adds to my life, I then move on to question every imaginable and varying attribute of the product so as to pick one from the pool of hundreds that meets all my specific needs from an aesthetic/functional/pricing perspective. 

Recently, I came to the realization that a traditional mens wallet doesn’t necessarily fit my needs on two counts - 1) I do not like sticking a wallet in my back pocket and traditional wallets are too big to fit in the front pocket and 2) I need a wallet in which I can simply dump all sorts of things ranging from coins, paper currency, cards, and maybe even a lip-balm! 

Since I've been majorly into the the brand Nicobar lately, I decided to go through their website to see if I could find something that fits my needs and settled for the Iku Denim Pouch. The form-factor is perfect for simply dumping things in and I didn’t find myself missing the various compartments of a traditional wallet (and their inherent limitations.) The design is also slim and narrow enough (so long as you don’t overstuff) to easily fit into a front pocket, making it easier to carry around.

As far as build quality is concerned, I have been using the pouch for almost six months now and it hasn’t given up on me, nor is there any major wear or tear or de-coloring (although half of this could be attributed to me being careful and not overstuffing it.) At 550 INR (less than $10) it also cheaper than most wallets and since it isn't made out of leather it is also a more sustainable and cruelty free alternative to a traditional mens wallet.  

ootd: Last Few Winter Days

First of all, allow me to explain the recent lack of posts on the blog. Late last year, I announced that I'd be making a shift to sustainable and ethical style. Part of that meant that I no longer wanted to purchase outfits that weren't manufactured in an ethical and sustainable way. However, I wasn't sure how I was going to go about all these pieces of clothing that I already owned. I didn't want to simply abandon them and start purchasing clothes afresh, because I strongly felt that this would be a contradiction and wouldn't be a very sustainable thing to do. So I came up with the idea of not buying new clothes until 2018. However, when 2018 arrived, I realized that there are so many pieces of clothing that I own, that I love but haven't gotten around wearing. With that realization, I decided to extend not buying new clothes for a bit longer so that I could figure out my favorites, wear them, and do a couple of shoots about them. Another reason that I  decided not to write post was that I no longer wanted to write a post that I wasn't whole-heartedly proud of. 

Anyway, now that we have that out of the way, let me talk about the outfit itself. I really love winter for a couple of reasons but from a style perspective, winter translates to me being able to layer and also wear stuff that you'd have to be mad to wear during any other season in India because of how hot it gets during most of the year. One of my winter staples is a black turtleneck zip-up from Esprit that I've owned since I was a teen. Maybe it is my adolescent admiration of Steve Jobs, but this jacket paired with my Levi's 501s is one of my favorite looks for the winter season. 

Shot by Shashank Issar 

ootd: Tiny Roads That No One Passes Through

There's a part of me, that longs for tiny empty roads that no one passes through, a part of me that longs for endless horizons sans buildings and billboards. There is a part of me that longs to walk through fields, running my fingers through crops, a part of me that longs to let the rays of the sun blind me, so that I can see more clearly. 

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I am wearing a tee purchased half a decade back from American Apparel and trousers I traded in for a bag full of clothes to be recycled by them.

Shot by Shashank Issar 

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ootd: Lazy Winter days at home

Last month I announced a shift to sustainable and ethical style but this shift should not translate to discarding your old wardrobe and starting fresh. The damage of purchasing unethically manufactured clothes cannot be offset by abandoning them for sustainable and ethical clothes but only by wearing them for decades, so that even if they weren’t manufactured ethically they were consumed in a sustainable and ethical manner. 

With winter finally here, thats exactly what I am going to do, by hashing out this classic Reebok sweatshirt from when I was a teen (I turn 29 next year) and my classic Levi's 501. Its the perfect outfit to wear while lazing around in your home with a nice cup of coffee and a good book. 

Essentials: Coffee by Blue Tokai

Essentials is a new series on my blog that tries to tackle two problems of modern consumerism - 1) The tendency to mindlessly buy things that we don't need and 2) The tendency to end up buying something we need that isn't the best in the category in terms of it's aesthetic and functional value. 

There's probably nothing I truly need on a daily basis more than coffee. Besides waking me up, coffee also enables me to take a moment to reflect on what I need to get done during the day while catching up on some light reading. This is why the first post on the essentials section was directed towards sharing how I choose to brew my coffee and why. 

That said, what equipment you use to brew your coffee is just half the battle won. Once you've figured out the best equipment to brew your perfect cup of coffee, you are going to have to get the best coffee available near you. Back in the day, this meant buying imported packaged coffee from the likes of Starbucks and although it'd be sourced from some of the best coffee farms in the world, by the time it would reach you, it would have lost its essence. This is because the freshness (aroma and flavour) of a coffee is at its peak in between 7-12 days, post which it starts deteriorating.

That is where Blue Tokai steps in. Besides sourcing their coffee from some of the best local coffee farms in the country, they ship the coffee within a day of roasting. They roast small batches twice a week, based on actual orders received, shipping them the next day, thereby ensuring that by the time it reaches you, you can enjoy peak the coffee at its peak. 

I chose their M.S. Estate blend which is described as a well-balanced medium roast, with a fruity aroma and nutty finish (ideal for people like me who drink their coffee black.) I also read a bit about the farm and as someone who values sustainability, I was pleased to know about the care with which the coffee is grown in the farms that spread across the Sahyadri range of the Western Ghats in Chickmagalur, Karnataka. Cultivation over the 600 hectares is done in a way that isn't disruptive to the natural forests (maintaining the natural habitat of birds, including myna, parrots, peacocks, woodpeckers, owls and parakeets, as well as animals such as bison, deer, foxes, and wild boars.) I was also delighted to read that all employees and their families are offered rudimentary healthcare, education, and housing. 

The estate has also won several awards including the bronze award at the "Grands Crus De Café" contest held at Paris, organised by Association Connaissance Du Café Concours Paris 2004. It was also ranked in the top ten best coffees in Illy Cafe's "Indian Coffee Quality Prize" held in Trieste, Italy.

You can order their coffees along with starter kits here.

Introducing: Required Reading

Required Reading is a new section on the blog through which I want to share the best articles I’ve discovered on the Internet. Articles that tell inspiring stories of great people, of unknown people, of seemingly ordinary occurrences that can have extra-ordinary repercussion in your life. Articles that will help you improve your life, to live it to the fullest, articles that bestow wisdom and change how you see the world. Basically, stuff that you should be required to read.

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This read on Harvey Weinstein and the economics of consent

Health tips from people who've lived for more than a 100 years

HBR tells you how to deal with an incompetent boss

Read about this absolutely inspiring man 

A story of slavery in Modern America by by Alex Tizon

This article asks whether it is still ethical to travel to Iceland

An interview with Chris Earl - A ceramist, furniture maker, chef, father, and husband

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